There are 3 victims in Bullying
1) Bully (yes they are a victim and I will get to that later)
I say the school bully is a victim because they do not have the proper tools to express themselves. Many times they have been the victim of bullying and intimidation themselves, and this is the only way they know how to act. Many learn from their parents and/or adults that are around them acting out of control. As parents we need to be mindful of the example we set for our children. Sometimes the apple does not fall far from the tree.
We don't always know why targets are targets. Shy kids. Geeky kids. Even popular kids are bullied. Bullying crosses race, gender and socioeconomic lines.
For the bystanders ( the kids who see the bullying) we need to teach our children empathy, and we need to encourage them to have a voice and speak out if they see something going on that they know is not right. We need to act on this now, and not sit back and let someone else take care of it.
All 3 are victims and we need to find ways to eliminate bullying in our schools. Remember that they are ALL children, and they all need our guidance and support.
Don't know where to start? Here are 10 things you can do right now!
10 Actions ALL Parents can take to Eliminate Bullying
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